The time between Thanksgiving and the arrival of the new year can be “full.” It is common to have additional responsibilities and activities, which perhaps means having less time to read blogs. Therefore, I’ve decided once again to spend the month of December sharing simple thoughts about enjoying things during the holiday season. They are short and sweet, and hopefully will make you feel a bit less stressed and more joyful.
My first thought for this season is a reminder that we don’t need to be “good” at things to enjoy them.
Over the next few weeks, you might have the chance to do something new and/or outside your comfort zone, such as ice skate, bake a new treat, go caroling, or decorate a gingerbread house. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking we have to perform perfectly or get “Insta-worthy” results for a holiday experience to be worthwhile. This just isn’t true!
After all, what does it matter if you fall down when you ice skate, your holiday treat falls flat, you can’t carry a tune, or your gingerbread house looks more like a gingerbread tear-down? During the holidays, let go of expectations, allowing yourself to simply show up and enjoy the experience. After all, sometimes it is the “fails” that make our best memories.
As we look at the weeks ahead, I encourage all of us to keep this in mind, remembering that…
- Our gifts don’t need to be perfectly wrapped to be appreciated.
- The Elf on the Shelf doesn’t need to be cleverly dressed or staged in crazy places to enchant a child.
- We don’t need to cook photo-worthy meals to gather and share community.
- We don’t need the trendiest holiday outfit to have a wonderful time at a party.
- We can bring paper products to a potluck.
- We don’t have to be a great dancer to hit the dance floor.
- We can have just as much fun losing as we do when we win.
One other thing: don’t feel the pressure to create a social media winning image. You may even want to take a hiatus from the peer pressure of social media this month. Instead, choose to focus on doing things that feel good, creating memories you can hold in your heart.
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A friend used to say, “People who participate have more fun.” Such wisdom! Don’t let your lack of self-confidence keep you from stepping out and enjoying the many moments the holidays have to offer.
What are you hoping to enjoy in the upcoming weeks?