With all of the leaves falling around me, it feels like time to drop a few new thoughts and resources into the blog. I hope you’ll enjoy perusing this content and come away with something you like!
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Social media can be fun. Scrolling along can give us ideas, let us know about things that are happening, and even inspire us. At the same time, for many, social media is often the source of negative feelings. We feel sad because others seem to be having a happier life than we are. Or, we become envious of someone else’s physique, beauty, family, etc. We never know until we open the app whether we are going to see something that cheers us or depresses us.
Additionally, checking, posting, and responding to social media can absorb a lot of time… time we may in hindsight wish we had spent doing something else.
This is just a reminder that social media is option. You can participate as much, or as little, as you wish. Believe it or not, some people don’t participate at all. You have both the privilege and the responsibility of adding boundaries to the role social media plays in your life.
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Do you know someone who is struggling with hoarding disorder? At NERCPO 2022 (North East Regional Conference for Professional Organizers), licensed clinical social worker (LCSW) and hoarding disorder expert Sarah Soboleski mentioned that she often refers families to this book: Digging Out: Helping Your Loved One Manage Clutter, Hoarding, and Compulsive Acquiring, by Michael A. Tompkins and Tamara L. Hartl.
Spouses, parents, and children of those who hoard often want to help but don’t know where to begin. It can be hard to understand the behavior, and in spite of excellent intentions, we can end up making a bad situation worse. If you are looking for guidance, this is a great place to start.
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People often think that being organized requires hours and hours of unpleasant work. While getting organized typically requires an initial investment of time and/or money, being organized largely comes down to maintenance. More specifically, walking around and putting things away.
There is no way to live an organized life without putting things away.
If you want to be more organized, resolve to spend time each day putting things back where they belong. If you don’t know where to put an item, rather than stack it up, make a choice for where it will live, and then go put it there.
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Have you heard of the parasympathetic nervous system? This was new to me. I learned about it from a guest speaker at a recent meeting of NAPO-CT (National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals, Connecticut Chapter). Lauren Mang of Let Me Organize It in San Francisco was talking to our group, and she mentioned this aspect of our nervous system and the connection it has to organizing.
Unlike our sympathetic nervous system, which is the one that triggers our “fight or flight” response to danger and stress, the parasympathetic nervous system is a network of nerves that restores our bodies to calm and helps us regain composure. Apparently, physical order (i.e., having things neatly arranged and in appropriate locations) triggers the parasympathetic nervous system to start sending out calming messages. In other words, order can actually calm us down! It seems that this aspect of our nervous system senses that things are “as they should be,” and therefore we can relax.
While I am not a scientist and haven’t studied this, I am inclined to agree. Not only do I personally feel more at peace when my spaces are in order, but I have also witnessed the calming and soothing effect that removing clutter and establishing order regularly has on my clients. After three hours working together, I notice positive changes in body language, breathing, and perspective.
Organizing not only makes things look and function better, but it can also make us feel better. How great is that?
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If you are like me, you may have some old china dishes lying around that you never use. Maybe you inherited them and prefer your own set, maybe they are a pattern that you no longer like, or perhaps you lack a sufficient number of pieces for them to be useful. Sets of china are notoriously difficult to resell, even though they cost a lot of money when they were originally purchased. Additionally, pieces that were handed down from family members often have a sentimental component, and we feel guilty letting them go.
If you want to keep the memory but don’t need a whole set of dishes clogging your space, you might want to check out the Brooklyn Teacup. They transform a piece or two of china into a variety of useful items, such as serving trays, magnets, candles, planters, and more.
As they say, “China should be adored, not stored!”
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Thanks for stopping by this latest sampler. Did any of these resonate with you?