If your house is crowded, you may wish to say this… but aren’t sure how. I’ll say it for you, and you can just forward this on to whomever needs to hear it.
Dear Family, Friends and Loved Ones,
Let me begin by saying, “Thank You.” Your presence in the life of my family is something I highly value! Your generosity has been overwhelming, and I treasure our relationship.
Now, on to the “delicate” part. Another holiday is almost here, and I am feeling anxious about the upcoming influx of more possessions. You see, my house is very crowded. Many times I walk through my space and get discouraged by the chaos. As much as I resolve to, I can’t seem to get the house organized. It feels like we have more toys than the children can play with, and even though I buy new bins and attempt to de-clutter, I can’t seem to get ahead of the situation. When I try and involve the children in the process, they often balk, telling me that they don’t want to let go of anything. I am so happy that they love their toys, but I don’t know what to do.
I’m not really sure how we got to this point. It seems like “more” keeps coming in: party favors, school trinkets, church take-homes, stuffed animals, Happy Meal toys, artwork, schoolwork, birthday gifts… All of it is wonderful and fun, but after the moment passes, I don’t know where to put it. Furthermore, I feel guilty to even think of giving or throwing these items away. What if my daughter asks for it tomorrow? Aren’t these things too special to donate? How do I let go of a gift from Grandma? Am I a bad mom if I throw away the story she wrote/drawing he made/project they built?
I know I need to be more focused on clearing out and making space, but I confess that I struggle.
So, as we near the holidays, I wanted to ask if you might be able to help. Perhaps we could talk and come up with some gift ideas that that won’t require storage space, such as memberships, lessons, tuition, camp fees, or excursions. I often need help paying for these things. Or maybe we could just make sure in advance that we can accommodate whatever you are planning, especially if you are considering something large or living.
Again, I am so thankful that you care enough to give to my family. I cringe at the idea of seeming unappreciative. I know you give great thought and care in gift giving, and your sole intention is to spread joy. For this, and for the gift of having you in our lives, I am truly grateful!
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Can you relate to this dilemma? What tips do you have for discussing this potentially sensitive topic?